Ever met anyone who always gets red in the face? Well if you haven’t, now you have because that is me. It could be anything; I’m happy, mad, nervous and don’t forget mostly if I’m speaking in front of a group. Yikes! But I have learned some ways of how to be more outgoing and to push past those tendencies.
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I am a naturally shy and somewhat introverted person. I know what you are thinking. So you started a blog?? My thoughts too. I have always loved meeting new people, sharing ideas and helping others. That is also in my nature. But sometimes it’s just hard to get passed the part of me that gets completely embarrassed when attention is on me. So I had to learn how to more outgoing.
Think what you will gain. Often all it takes is reminding ourselves of what positive outcome we are striving towards. At a party where you don’t know anyone? You could make a new friend! Or sometimes you can alternatively think of what’s really the worst that could happen? So you mess up a few words in a speech. You continue on and that’s it. If anything it makes others associate more because we have all been there.
If it’s something in a social environment like at a party or get together ask other people questions instead of being the one talking. It works great because it takes the spotlight off you and you learn more about others. It will also help you relax a little and then maybe find some things in common that will be an easy topic so you are not uncomfortable.
Find ways to focus your energy elsewhere. I have heard part of the reason I always get red is because of the adrenaline from being nervous. If you get that adrenaline out beforehand you feel less nervous. There are many different ways to do this. If you are able to before hand get some exercise or go for a run; whatever you prefer. Before my husband has something big with work he usually goes for a run before he leaves and it helps him a ton.
Play on your own turf. Ok what does that mean, right? Where are you most comfortable…. at home! So the answer is to become the host or hostess. Being in your own environment gives you a sense of ease and that you have more control over the situation. This allows you to be more relaxed and social with people. Having get togethers at my house is one of my favorite things for many reasons but this is a big one.
Surround yourself with people who uplift and challenge you. It’s kind of funny because I feel like deep down I am actually really outgoing but I just have a hard time getting passed the first level of shyness and fear. Having a group of family and friends that are outgoing really helps encourage me to be more so myself. They don’t push me but rather inspire and help me try new things and put myself out there more than I would normally.
I may still get red in the face sometimes but now I just don’t worry about it because it just doesn’t matter!